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Being a force greater than your obstacle

Tougherthan logo symbol. This symbol looks like a greater than symbol, an arrow pointing to the right, and is created using connected triangles fitted together in shades of grey. Dissecting this is a yellow vertical line through the centre and another across the top of the greater than symbol to visually form a letter “T”. Next to this T and in the point of the arrow is another greater than symbol, in yellow.

TOUGHERthan.com is a platform built from spaces outside of the comfort zone with in-house articles, uncomfortable conversations, wellbeing practises, active projects and neighbouring collectives.


Co-founded by Murby & Fejes, TOUGHERthan
 provides a common ground for the “every” individual, a roadmap for growth with intentional resources. This is a place for 
meeting the moment, asking better questions, and exploring perspectives beyond your own.

Being TOUGHERthan is affecting the dependent force between individual and oppression through the shifting of our perceptions of self and situation, to challenge and change the status-quo. This is active. It’s movement catalysed by awareness and accountability. It’s mindfulness — being (i am) and perspective (is that so?). 

Tougherthan text logo in a box. The word “tougherthan” is the main word, large in size, and positioned in centre. “Tougher” is written in all caps in very dark grey. On the next line “Than” is written in lower case in lighter grey colour. The “A” in “than” is substituted for the Tougher-than logo symbol. This symbol looks like a greater than symbol, an arrow pointing to the right, and is created using connected triangles fitted together in shades of grey. Dissecting this is a yellow vertical line through the centre and another across the top of the greater than symbol to visually form a letter “T”. Next to this T and in the point of the arrow is another greater than symbol, in yellow. It is then complemented with a three-sided, top, right, and bottom, square border outline in black. Along the bottom line, left justified, reads the slogan “being a force greater than your obstacle” which is written in dark grey.

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TOUGHERthan’s concept can perhaps best be illustrated by Newton’s second law of motion which pertains to the behaviour of objects when the existing forces upon them are not balanced. Newton’s second law states that the acceleration of an object is dependent upon two variables – the net force acting upon the object and the mass of the object. Our theory behind TOUGHERthan is that the act of overcoming adversity (acceleration) is relative to our perceptions (mass) and our motivation (force) – both of which are changeable.

Recognising and employing intrinsic inspiration (motivation from within ourselves) can regularly be met with resistance, yet, these intrinsic pathways can be strengthened. Outsourcing our motivational spark, borrowing from our external library, is a powerful tool for doing just thatAs of 2020 there were approximately 7.8 billion people on this planet. That’s 7.8 billion perspectives, 7.8 billion relationships with adversity, and 7.8 billion units of person-power. From all this individuality there is not only infinite resource but also common ground. 

TOUGHERthan is the individual story, partner in voice, and collective spotlight designed with one mission in mind – being a force greater than your obstacle.

What’s with ParaSport? ParaSport is where co-founders Fejes and Murby converted their TOUGHERthan adage to a practise. The belief that we can overcome obstacles requires more than inspiration alone, and this is where our perceptions play a big role. How do we perceive our reality? Do we believe we can become our own inspiration? How do we shift from tokenism and/or inspiration-porn to authenticity? Change comes from persistent acts and ParaSport delivers a stage for perseverance beyond our perception of “typical” – an idea, an intention, and a great place to start unpacking TOUGHERthan. 

Explore what being TOUGHERthan means to the every-individual in their words

Our story

From two very different walks of life. Murby & Fejes, a power partnership like no other. Ness Murby (left), Australian born, and Eva Fejes (right), a Canadian, met in Tokyo in 2009 and have been growing concomitantly as individuals and in unity ever since.

Together they’ve journeyed continents, countries, and cultures; societies, systems, and standpoints. An effect of their intersectionality is that acceptance is commonly juxtaposed with segregation. And repeatedly manoeuvring obstacles gives a certain perspective to their story.

Murby and Fejes have partnered in elite level para-sport since 2010. Developing their dynamic from ParaPowerlifting days in Japan. And it was from the land of the rising sun, with a good many stopovers between, that their next homebase became Canada’s Pacific Northwest.
Co-founders Murby and Fejes in front of The Louvre, in Paris
Co-founders Murby and Fejes, with guidedog Lexington, atop a grassy hill overlooking an expansive landscaped garden.
Murby & Fejes’ intersectionality has lead them to seek better; to ask better questions and to advocate and action better change. They have carried their learning, unlearning and relearning into every space — mindset is both a chosen attitude and a response to circumstance.

Founding TOUGHERthan.com has been a long-aspired-to journey. Building a platform from which to challenge societal norms and advocate intentionality, necessitates seeking the spaces outside of the comfort zone. TougherThan is meeting the moment. The work is not done. This space is constantly evolving, and intended to be. Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, Accessibility and Justice is a journey to commit to. We are committed. We are TOUGHERthan.

MEET THE TOUGHERthan TEAM

What TOUGHERthan means to us.

Eva Fejes. Black and white headshot.

Eva fejes

(She / they)

Co-Founder

TOUGHERthan is the pushback. The pushback against the arbitrary rules, limitations, must haves, should do’s, need to’s: The Roadmap we are handed and hand out, “take one and pass it on!”, that tell us How To Live and How To Be Happy.  

My TOUGHERthan journey began with my work in Parasport.  From the first my worldview was turned entirely on its head. To be told that in fact “the competition is with yourself” when all my life i understood i was to compare myself with others to measure my worth. Witnessing the limitless potential of “yes let’s find a way” facilitation, versus the repressive and fear-based “no that isn’t possible” blockades that people with disabilities face countless times every day, drove deeply my understanding of the very tangible impact our perceptions have on our experience of ourselves and the world around us.  Learning that the simple act of taking time to pay attention and devise that tailored approach can be the difference that allows a person to pursue their own version of greatness. Think of all the greatness we have been missing out on because we only recognise Greatness when it shows up in a recognisable, pre-labeled box of a certain size, shape, and colour.

Inspired by the mindset i witnessed everyday in ParaSport, both on and off the field, TOUGHERthan came into technicolour. There was no osmosis – this is an intentional and practised mindset – a mindset that requires choosing to push towards an individual’s own exclusive greatness. This mindset demands that we explore what greatness means: MY pursuits and challenges driven by MY passions, truths and ethics determined by MY imagination, experience and intellect.  This mindset celebrates that my roadmap is like no one else’s which allows me to stop comparing and authentically learn from, lift up and be inspired by others.

TOUGHERthan is my pursuit of happiness. 

I want to live in a world where this is the Roadmap we pass on

Lexington. Guidedog. Resting. Black and white portrait.

Lexington

(He / Him)

Media liason

Black and white portrait photo of Ness Murby

Ness murby

(He / him)

Co-founder

TOUGHERthan is perseverance in pursuit. 

To my mind, TOUGHERthan is a doctrine to the designedly perennial pursuit of being the very best version of ourselves; embracing being as both a stillness and an act of growth – admittedly a concept I didn’t consciously begin to understand until my mid-thirties but a practise I had inadvertently employed for most of my life. 

Being a kid adapting to vision that was simultaneously vacillating while deteriorating produced a built-in clause to the definition of typical: RELATIVE. In hindsight, I recognise this as one of my inceptive lessons in perceptions from which I grew expectations that were outside the usual confines and in opposition of stereotypes. 

One of thirty individuals selected from one-thousand applicants, I was the youngest and first blind student accepted into the national school of design. By this time my education in perceptions had extended to the disconnect between lens and world – the “relative” clause had been hit with resistance – an awareness that the “green” I see is not the “green” you see (and not just because I was going blind). Final phase selections were determined via in-person portfolio critique and I quickly realised that for the designer to be seen I needed to present as their “typical” (no white cane, just sunglasses and a memorised floorplan). Unwittingly employing TOUGHERthan, I had accepted navigating a world in which I needed to draw on atypical approaches to maneuver beyond presumption-based social constraints.  Blind is my commonplace, ground level, whereas design was an impassioned pursuit. Being selected based on the quality of my portfolio is my anecdotal crux, however, to others the adjoining of blind and design is quintessentially remarkable – every lens is different. 

“Just because I don’t have sight, doesn’t mean I don’t have vision,” I was 21 years old, Swinburne’s National School of Design’s 2006 valedictorian, and still incognisant of my affect. Being the best version of ourselves involves conscious choices and perseverance in our pursuits. Everyday acts, those self-evaluated as trifling, can and do incite transmutations – it’s this dissection of ordinary that is the extraordinary. How we perceive life events sets the stage for TOUGHERthan.

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